The Relationship Rules These 29 Long-Term Celebrity Couples Swear By to Stay Together
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Stephanie SengweFebruary 11, 2026 at 3:52 AM
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Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell; Vincent Hughes and Sheryl Lee Ralph; Patrick Harris and David Burtka
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Every marriage comes with its own set of challenges. Add worldwide fame, frequent travel and constant demands on your time and attention, and that can be enough to strain even the strongest marriages, as many stars can attest.
However, celebrities such as Ron and Cheryl Howard, Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, Rob Lowe and Sheryl Berkoff Lowe as well as Sheryl Lee Ralph and Vincent Hughes, have managed to make their relationships last for decades. Whether they attribute that to good sex or knowing when to walk away from arguments — or simply understanding that no outside factors can pull them apart — these Hollywood couples have managed to make their unions work while also balancing high-profile careers, thanks to some ground rules for their relationships.
Check out these 29 celebrity couples on the relationship rules that keep them together.
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Ron Howard and Cheryl Howard
Ron Howard and Cheryl Howard
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With half a century of marriage under their belts, Ron and Cheryl Howard's marriage is one of the most enduring in Hollywood. And the famed filmmaker says it's partially due to luck.
"Some of staying together for that amount of time is luck. You have to grow together," he told PEOPLE in 2025.
“You can recognize when you're veering off a little bit and try to work on it, sure,” he added. “People talk about marriage requiring work and commitment, sure. I don't think you can will it into existence.”
The couple met while in English class at Burbank's John Burroughs High School in the '70s, he asked her out, and they've been together ever since.
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Sheryl Lee Ralph and Vincent Hughes
Sheryl Lee Ralph and Vincent Hughes
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Sheryl Lee Ralph and her husband, Philadelphia Senator Vincent Hughes, will be marking 20 years of marriage in July. The key to making it last? Good old communication.
“Talk about it,” Ralph told PEOPLE. “Do everything not to go to bed angry, and remember that as much as 'I love you,' 'I always like you' [is important too].”
She added that communication is not only “key” to keeping a relationship together, but “is everything” to helping it continue to grow and flourish as well. “Without it, relationships don't survive. They don't survive."
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Grant Show and Katherine LaNasa
Grant Show and Katherine LaNasa
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For Katherine LaNasa and Grant Show, the simple choice to stay married is the reason they've lasted 13 years together.
“Our key to staying married? … Not getting divorced,” LaNasa told PEOPLE last November while at the Baby2Baby Gala. Show concurred: "Not breaking up" is the big secret, he said.
The first crossed paths while filming the HBO drama Big Love back in 2006. They were engaged in July 2012 and tied the knot at The Oak Grove at Ribbit Tree & Plant Nursery in Topanga, Calif., the following month.
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Chris Hemsworth and Elsa Pataky
Elsa Pataky, Chris Hemsworth
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For Chris Hemsworth and his wife, Elsa Pataky, there are no shortcuts, just the commitment to putting in the work.
"Marriage needs constant work, and you learn a lot from the rough patches," the Spanish actress and model, who married the Avenger back in 2010, told Hello magazine. "You have to try to keep growing together, making sure that your paths carry on crossing."
"It’s about finding the fun, enjoying the little moments and remaining curious about each other. You have to be ready to adapt, and because there are situations that separate you, you how to find each other again," she added.
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Neil Diamond and Katie McNeil
Katie McNeil and Neil Diamond
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Neil Diamond and his wife Katie McNeil will be marking 14 years of marriage in April and she opened up about the glue that's kept them together: their friendship.
"We're best friends, and we really support each other. We lift each other up, and through thick and thin, through sickness and health, we really live it. And I think that that’s the secret," Katie told PEOPLE at the New York City premiere of Song Sung Blue back in December.
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Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell
Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell
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Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell are Hollywood royalty and the secret to their lasting 40-year plus relationship, according to her, is simple: great sex.
"You have to have good sex," she told E! News at MindUP’s The Goldie Hawn Foundation charity back in September.
“Because sex is something that connects you and creates more belonging. People who have healthy sexual relationships usually last a lot longer," Hawn explained. "But it's not just because of the act, it's because of the warmth and the intimacy that it creates.”
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Ted Danson and Mary Steenburgen
Ted Danson and Mary Steenburgen
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Married for 30 years, Ted Danson and Mary Steenburgen revealed that being honest, dividing up the duties and making up quickly after a fight is what keeps their union going strong.
"Just tell the truth. The only time I get really angry with Mary is when I'm wrong," Danson told PEOPLE back in 2021 in a joint interview with his wife. "But he's wrong a lot," she teased, to which Danson concurred, "I am. It's only when you're being defensive or fearful that you get angry."
During disagreements, Danson admitted he's the first to apologize. ("But 'stop being mad' is usually the first five minutes of my apology," he joked.)
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Barbra Streisand and James Brolin
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Barbra Streisand and James Brolin may have gotten together when they were already older — he was 56 and she was 54 — but that doesn't mean their relationship didn't need some fine-tuning.
"I think everybody needs to be a negotiator," Brolin told PEOPLE in a 2022 cover story. "Everybody needs to have patience and know when to take a walk."
"Being understanding where your rages and your fire comes from," Brolin explained. "Knowing that they will calm down and you can negotiate. I don't think anybody's immune to that no matter how great lovers look over at that table, let's say."
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Robert Downey Jr. and Susan Downey
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Many successful celebrity couples have some version of the "two week rule," in which they have a maximum amount of time they can go without seeing each other, despite their busy schedules. Susan Downey, who has been married to Robert Downey Jr. since 2005, explained how they used that as the foundation for their family to PEOPLE.
“We do have a two-week rule, which often feels too long, but we don't go more than two weeks without seeing each other and the family being together,” Susan said. "You just have to have some basic things in place, and then you have to be willing to flow with the rest of it."
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Jamie Lee Curtis and Christopher Guest
Christopher Guest and Jamie Lee Curtis
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Jamie Lee Curtis and Christopher Guest crossed the 41-year mark in December and back in 2024, the Halloween actress revealed one of the keys to their relationship is that "you don't leave."
"I'm sober for a long time, and we have a phrase in recovery: 'If you stay on the bus, the scenery will change.' And that's marriage," she told Entertainment Tonight, before explaining how her marriage changes, even moment to moment.
"It's like, all of a sudden you literally want to hate each other and then the next day it's a pretty sunny day and the dog does something cute or your child does something cute and you look at each other like, 'Aww, gosh.' And then you're on another track," she explained.
"So I think perseverance, patience, gentleness — and a really good dose of hatred," the Freaky Friday star joked.
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Bobby Berk and Dewey Do
Bobby Berk and Dewey Do
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For Bobby Berk and Dewey Do, it's all about making each other feel special.
"It was our 20th [anniversary] in May, and him and I have never really been like anniversary people or birthday people," he told PEOPLE at the One House Toast to the Emmys event in September 2024. "It's funny, we used to always laugh that neither of us knew it was our anniversary until Facebook would tell us."
The reason why holidays are not a big thing in their relationship is because the couple "love[s] to celebrate each other every day."
"You know, we love to just take a little weekend trip here and there," the interior designer told PEOPLE. "We did just go to Ireland, and actually, around our anniversary, we were in Asia. So, yeah, I wouldn't say there was one specific thing we did for our anniversary, but we've always been the type of people. We celebrate each other every day."
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Adam Brody and Leighton Meester
Adam Brody and Leighton Meester
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For Adam Brody, choosing to marry Leighton Meester is the best decision he's ever made.
As he told Hoda Kotb and Jenna Bush Hager while visiting their show last year, Brody, who's been married to the Gossip Girl alum for 12 years, said the secret to a good union begins with picking well.
Asked what the secret sauce to his long-lasting marriage was, Brody answered, “Oh, pick someone good. Be lucky and be in love with someone who’s great and then just kind of listen to them.”
He continued, "If you’re with someone great, you’re on third base. Not that it doesn’t take sacrifice and humility and you have to grow together and you have to be willing to grow, because you’re not going to be able to stay 100 percent right where you are. But if you’re with someone wonderful, I think you’re on third base.”
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Jerry and Jessica Seinfeld
Jessica and Jerry Seinfeld
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Jerry and Jessica Seinfeld's relationship dates back to 1998. The pair, who have been married since December 1999, says their relationship works because their communication is strong.
"We’re all civilians first of all, and every relationship and certainly Hollywood marriages — when people are traveling — and he travels all the time, are challenging when you don’t spend time together and you don’t work on the relationship," she said as they hosted the Good + Foundation's 2019 Bash at Victorian Gardens in Central Park. "He’s the most incredible communicator and so he’s better at this relationship than I am."
"Also that we are not codependent. We both have a very strong work ethic and a huge passion for our work," she later added.
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Ree Drummond and Ladd Drummond
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Pioneer Woman Ree Drummond and her husband of almost 30 years Ladd, also abide by the rule that you should not go to bed angry. Oh, and you should be sure to touch feet.
“We don’t go to sleep in each other’s arms—we like our space—but our feet always touch,” she told PEOPLE. “I know that if our feet touch before we go to sleep at night, we’re not going to bed upset or angry. If we’ve had a little disagreement, as long as our feet touch, it’s all good.”
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Elton John and David Furnish
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The couple of more than 30 years have one very simple rule that keeps them connected: "never go to bed on an argument," Furnish told PEOPLE.
Even if they have to stay up until 3:00 a.m. to hash out their disagreement, he said, "We always make sure that before we turn in at night, if there's any kind of hostility in the air or, 'I'm not speaking to you. Really pissed me off,' we don't go to sleep on it. We don't carry it over the next day."
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Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds
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The "two-week rule" can be harder to follow when you're both working actors and have to be on location to film a movie. So Blake Lively has said that she and Ryan Reynolds agreed, even before they were married, to never work at the same time, to avoid long periods spent apart.
"When Ryan and I got together, we made a rule not to work at the same time, so that we could always prioritize our personal life," she told Entertainment Tonight. "That takes working really hard when we're not. Just like, financial planning and sustaining that — it takes balance."
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Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue
Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas
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Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue were together for 40 years before the beloved talk show host died on Aug. 18, 2024 at 88 years old.
In a 2020 cover story for AARP the Magazine, the couple opened up about some of the things that made their relationship work.
“Through the years you learn that everything is not that big a deal, and this isn’t going to break us up no matter what, so you get used to saying, 'Ok, let’s just talk it out',” Thomas said.
“The secret of good communication? Screaming helps,” joked Donahue. “At least then you know if whether the person you’re screaming at is listening. Then go in the other room and count to ten.”
He adds, “A little humor certainly in a marriage goes a long way.”
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Rob Lowe and Sheryl Berkoff Lowe
Rob Lowe and Sheryl Berkoff
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Like Brody, Rob Lowe agrees that marrying the right person makes all the difference.
While on the iHeartPodcast Table for Two with Bruce Bozzi in 2023, the West Wing actor shared that being best friends with wife Sheryl has sustained their 35-year-long marriage.
"[Marriage] is hard anywhere, it is not just Hollywood – it's everywhere," he told host Bruce Bozzi. "Sheryl was and is my best friend. So if you marry for anything other than the fact that is your best friend, you're at a disadvantage from the jump, because that will sustain when the other stuff ebbs and flows."
Secondly, Lowe also said keeping the flame strong was also a key factor.
"I do believe you need the heat for sure," he shared. "If you don't have the heat – and that's a chemical thing, I still have it with Sheryl — you gotta keep the heat."
He continued: "That comes and goes too, there are times when you are like, 'Nah.' And then there are times when you are wild for somebody."
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Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz
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Quality time keeps Alicia Keys and Swizz Beatz's 15-year union on solid ground.
"Really carving out the time for each other," she told the Wall Street Journal in a March 2023 interview. "We all struggle with it. There's so much to balance. There's so much to do. And you find yourself running and doing the things for school, for the kids, and doing all the things for your lists, for all the dreams you have in your career, and what you have to do next."
"That time together with you and your partner is so priceless," she continued. "And to carve out that time and to make that important, as important as those daily things, I think it really pours back into the relationship."
"You remember why you are in love, you remember why you just like each other, what's interesting about each other," she concluded.
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Snoop Dogg and Shante Broadus
Snoop Dogg and Shante Broadus
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Long before he was the rap legend he is today, Snoop Dogg was already locked in with Shante, his wife of now, 28 years. The two first met while attending Long Beach's Polytechnic High School in the '80s and stuck by each others' side through the ups and downs.
While speaking about his long-lasting marriage, the "Gin and Juice" rapper told PEOPLE one secret to a long marriage is to purposefully make your partner happy.
"Find out what your companion loves the most and concentrate on doing it the most. That's real love," he said.
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Tim McGraw and Faith Hill
Tim McGraw and Faith Hill
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For Tim McGraw and Faith Hill, it's all about being equal decision-makers in the relationship.
Asked what drives their relationship, McGraw jokingly responded, "The car I drive, the relationship she drives,” while on Today, back in 2017.
He added, “It’s pretty even. We make decisions about things in different ways, but we always talk about it before we do it. And you know, having three daughters, we sort of acquiesced to mom quite a bit on those decisions.”
And when it comes to parsing through arguments, McGraw revealed they haven't been afraid of facing conflict head-on in their almost 30-year marriage. The key is being able to get back on the same page.
"First and foremost you should be able to argue and you should be able to have discussions or yelling matches or whatever,” he said.
“But I think the key is,” he continued, “You can go into an argument and your first thought shouldn’t always be ‘Should I be in this relationship?’ That should be the last thought you have in an argument.”
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Denzel Washington and Pauletta Washington
Denzel Washington and Pauletta Washington
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Pauletta Washington told PEOPLE that there are no shortcuts when it comes to maintaining her 42-year marriage to Denzel Washington. Just love.
“We work at it. It's work,” she said. “There are a lot of prayers for strength for staying in a forgiveness mode and both parts, mine and his. ... But it's the basic love that we have for each other.”
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Luke Bryan and Caroline Boyer
Caroline Boyer and Luke Bryan
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For Luke Bryan and his wife Caroline Boyer, two decades together have taught them to pick and choose their battles.
"There's some 'opposites attract' that goes on," Bryan told PEOPLE in 2021. "I think it makes us drive each other crazy, but then it pulls us together, too. We've gotten better at understanding when we need to sit down and work through something. And we've also gotten better at realizing when we just need to forgive each other and move on, and we're not gonna let something hang us up for a couple of days. Life's too short!"
Caroline agreed, saying, "Just like everyone, we have our arguments, bad days, and disagreements. However, we always talk out our problems. Marriage isn't always a fairy tale! It's a battle that both people have to be willing to fight. Each day whether we are blissfully happy or not, we fight for each other."
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Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas
Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas
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Catherine Zeta-Jones told WSJ. Magazine that having "a lot of fun" with husband of 20+ years Michael Douglas was the main thing that kept them strong, despite a significant age gap and untraditional jobs.
"My husband is 25 years older than me; that's not a secret. With any relationship, it wouldn't be normal if there weren't any ups and downs," she explained. "The constant is love and respect. We've never, ever lost our sense of humor, and we enjoy each other's company."
She continued, "My husband and I spend a lot of time together because, unlike so many couples, we've never had a 9-to-5 job where it's consistent. We're either on or we're off. I'm really working 16 hours a day, or I'm not. He's doing the same, or not. ... So we've had, in our relationship, huge amounts of time where we've been just us. We lived on the island of Bermuda for 12 years bringing up our kids. We respect each other's space, and our humor is just long-lasting."
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Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka
Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka
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The secret to Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka's 24-year relationship is quite simple.
“I think the secret to a relationship is just perseverance, you know?” the How I Met Your Mother star told Entertainment Tonight. “It’s not always pretty … but he’s pretty, so it makes it easy,” the actor joked.
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Pink and Carey Hart
Pink and Carey Hart
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"For us, the answer is there's no quit button. Unless we find one. Right now, we don't have one," Pink told Extra in 2021, of her relationship with husband Carey Hart.
"But it's also couples' counseling. Learning how to speak the same language, 'cause we don't speak the same language."
Pink and Hart met back in 2001 and began dating the same year. And while their relationship was on and off, the couple has managed to always find their way back to each other and have been married for 20 years.
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Salma Hayek and François-Henri Pinault
Salma Hayek Pinault and Francois-Henri Pinault
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On an episode of Red Table Talk back in 2021, Salma Hayek revealed that the secret to her marriage with business mogul François-Henri Pinault is to not point the finger in the midst of a disagreement.
"When there is conflict, we put all the energy in solving the problem — never finding who to blame or, 'You should have done this or that.' No," the actress said. "All our energy goes into, 'How do we solve this?'
Because of that Hayek said, "We've never said anything nasty to each other," she added. "No resentment."
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Kathy Hilton and Rick Hilton
Kathy hilton and Rick hilton
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If distance makes the heart grow fonder, Kathy and Rick Hilton know nothing about it. The parents to Paris and Nicky Hilton have been married for 45 years but have never spent too much time apart, despite their busy schedules.
"We have not been away from each other for two weeks in 43 years of marriage,” the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star told PEOPLE in 2024.
She also subscribes to the idea of not going to bed mad at your partner saying, “I don't think you go to bed without saying, ‘I love you,’ and giving each other a kiss and never in a fight or anything,” she continued. “If you have had a disagreement, you always make up before you go to sleep and keep a little mystery and always keep it exciting and fun.”
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Jimmy Carter and Rosalynn Carter
President Jimmy Carter and his wife Rosalynn
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In one of the longest marriages in American history, Jimmy Carter and his wife Rosalynn were together for a staggering 77 years before she died in 2023 (he followed in 2024). The key? Giving each other space while also embracing their commonalities.
"We've survived this long together because first of all, we give each other plenty of space to do our own thing," President Carter told Good Morning America in 2021.
The relationship worked, he added, in part because they "share as much as [they] possibly can" when it comes to their interests — like making fly fishing around the world "a major part of [their] recreation."
"We're always looking to do things or find things we can do together, like fly fishing and bird watching and just going out to the pond, catch a fish," Rosalynn added at the time.
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